Last night, a comedian named Ryan Broems went on a date with transgendered woman and thought it would be funny to live tweet it. Well, turns out to have been a hoax, or as Ryan comedically categorized it: a “bit.” It did not happen. Ryan just thought it was a funny idea, and he didn’t realize this fake date was going to cause such an uproar. His Twitter account is currently susepended, so if you missed his tweet session, there are screencaps available here: http://laurelai.info/index.php/ryan-broems-goes-on-transmisogynistic-live-tweet-rant-while-on-a-date-with-a-trans-woman/
Before his account was suspended, he apologized and provided a link to a website for transphobia awareness. The conversation moved to Facebook, where his personal and fan pages have been receiving a lot of comments from users, but few responses from him. A few of his FB friends/fans defended him by saying it’s free speech and it’s what comedy is all about, etc. Ryan, whether you are working on a better apology, shrugging it off as people being too sensitive, or you are just taking some time off social media to reflect, let’s take a peer-to-peer session and look at some of your tweets from a comedy perspective.
Ryan, let’s start with your hashtags. You used the hashtag Trannygate. As mentioned in the link above, it’s revolting, but also, it doesn’t make any sense. Why? Because when you put gate at the end of a word - like say, the Watergate Scandal - you are implying just that: a scandal. Ryan, you were not duped. You knew going in she was transgenered and she knew you were a guy. Also, you decided to hashtag #livetweet, to imply this was happening IN REAL TIME. Tweeting your date, as it is happening, implies it is live. In retrospect, only #livetweet would suggest this might not be live after all.
You mentioned in a tweet that you realized you were going to be on your phone the entire time, and she is probably going to think you are autistic. In comedy, there is a phrase, that when you writing a joke or finding the game of an improv scene to go from A to C. Meaning, that you are taking a premise and bypassing the obvious (aka B) and coming up with a not so obvious punchline, scene, etc. (aka C). Well, hats off Ryan, you went from A to C. In this hypothetical date, she won’t think you are rude, bored, uninterested, self involved, but autistic! You must be mentally handicapped for being on your phone every five minutes on a date, while she is sitting there, arms folded, wondering how much longer she is going have to put up with this. At no point, is she going to call you out on this because you are clearly autistic and unaware that you are being so rude. This is like a bonus offense that got swept under the rug because your initial premise is currently being attacked.
Next tweet: She ordered a Budwieser and you ordered a vodka cranberry. You are losing the man battle. You are losing the fucking man battle, bro! Is that her dick between your legs, or yours?????? This like being going on a date with a woman and the same thing happening!!!!!
Next tweet: She beat you at pool AGAIN. You know, pool. That manly sport you weren’t good at in high school that led to all the locker room bullying. Remember in The Sandlot when Ham said YOU PLAY POOL LIKE A GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!! and every character fell silent because he crossed the line?
Lots of people perceive comedians as people looking to shock for the sake of shocking. If this wasn’t your intention Ryan, ask yourself why you thought this “bit” was funny and why you thought it would go over well. Maybe recall that self awareness that told you this was a harmless, funny “bit” to try out. What was the end goal?
On Ryan’s Facebook page, a few people came to his defense. I’m paraphrasing two of these: one guy stated that it’s bullshit political correctness in comedy because it’s a straight white male being criticized for demeaning a transgendered woman, yet when a white person is the butt of a joke, the same form of social outrage doesn’t seem to exist. Fuck! Looks like as a straight, white male, you are going to have to come up with other jokes. Like, a variety of jokes! Maybe going out and having real experiences with real people can help expedite the process, in lieu of making one up? Maybe going on a date with a transgendered woman would have changed your whole game plan in regards to this Twitter “bit?”
The second defense was that sad people are trolling the internet looking at something to be offended by and subsequently attack. Newsflash, he was tweeting this for over 800 followers on Twitter. Someone found this because he tweeted about it and it showed up on their feed. There are also people on the internet who make up going on dates with transgendered women to make a comedy “bit” out of it. Isn’t that kind of sad?